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I've been invited to join a twelve month process, orbiting a retreat at the end on this year, designed to bring into clarity my living a daily life that is true to my core being. This is exciting and well timed as I pause over winter, during a time of personal transition, and listen. Being one year in duration, it promises fantastic opportunity to focus my intention and awareness, and develop relationships of trust with all involved.

Both recent Tantra retreats, one in the Drakensberg and the other suspended high above Cape Town's False Bay, were deeply moving. It touches the core of my being to bear witness to the deep transformation individuals undergo with such willingness to face their vulnerability.

There are different aspects to masculinity. This work is focused on the narrow slice about how we relate to and express our masculine in sexuality. It's an important slice, if not the crucial basis from which all other relating is infused. Osho is quoted as saying, "Sex is the seed, love is the flower, compassion is the fragrance.". If we are to rise to an authentic, honouring and empowered expression of the masculine it would be good to nurture and feed the roots of this possibility.

Recent articles by two sex-positive authors express their feelings of shame when met with disapproval in the society they live. Anonymous blogger of The Beautiful Kind wrote on aagblog.com that she "was in a sound tunnel of shame, a total state of shock, my face was bright red.". On SexIs, sex educator Sarah Sloan describes her experience as "one of the singularly most shaming experiences of my sex-positive life, at the hands of a paid healthcare professional." Follow the links to read details of each.